This is a post dedicated to sharing my experience on how to stop bullying. Bullying, in whatever form, is a terrible experience, and makes you feel horrible about yourself.
The thing is, bullying is really common and unfortunately, most people who are being bullied keep it to themselves out of fear and shame. Mostly, they hide because they feel that this is their reality and there's nothing else they can do. I've read about teenagers who commit suicide and take drugs to end their lives because they felt that they didn't have any more control on their life.
I'm here to tell you that your life does not have to be horrible. You have every right as a person, boy or girl, man or woman, lesbian or gay or transgender or anyone in between, to feel wonderful about yourself. You do not have to feel like a victim.
We have all heard all the sayings:
What goes around comes back around.
What you put out there will come back to you.
People can sense the person that you are and respond to that vibe that you give to people.
What it means in simple terms is this: you cannot expect to be happy, if you expect to be bullied. You can only expect to be happy if you expect to have a wonderful experience every day, if you expect new friendships.
I don't mean to sound preachy about it, but I'm speaking from my own personal experience. I got bullied for a long time at school. Every day, I expected to be bullied and that very expectation kept coming true. I expected to be bullied, the bullies sensed it, and bullied me even harder than the day before.
It took me a really long time for me to realise that I would not know how to stop bullying until I learnt to tell myself to expect better for myself.
So I started really trying, I started to tell myself positive things that I liked about myself. I started focusing on my strengths. I started smiling and trying to make more friends.
I changed my focus, from focusing on what I did not want, to what I do want, which is happiness and inner peace.
Once I achieved that, things started to change. I started making friends, and the bullies left me alone.
Start right now.
It will take some time, as I've mentioned before, every thing in life will take some time and some effort on your part. Once you get the hang of this, once you start to understand that your day gets better when you feel better, the bullying will stop and the bullies will completely leave you alone.
You have to start today. I cannot emphasise this more. Don't deny yourself happiness by prolonging or procrastinating. Keep trying, keep trying every day. It will seem hard at first but once you see the difference, you'll be blown away at how fast your life changes.
To everyone out there going through this difficult experience of bullying, I hope this gives you the courage to make things better for you. All the best!